AskTransgender

Hi, I wanted a bit of advice as I’m not sure how to do it properly. When I shave, I either go both ways which causes me to cut myself a lot more, or I go from top to bottom but when doing this, my skin feels lot coarser. Is there a technique I should be using?

So a bit of background; I had a gender crisis a couple of years ago, and I’ve been trying to find myself ever since. I am married to a cis het woman, and my exploration of my gender identity has been putting a major strain in our marriage. I am currently identifying as nonbinary and genderqueer, but I am not sure that this is how I will end up. I have been very cautious with how I explore and express my gender identity to avoid upsetting my wife, but even so, there have been a lot of difficulties, and we both really think we need to talk with other couples that have been going through the same thing. We’ve been in couple’s counseling for a while, but that can only do so much. We are both committed to this relationship, but at the same time, all of this has been hard for both of us.

Hey, folks. So to start this off, I’m going to say that I am trying to be respectful, polite, and sensitive. I try my best to live my life in such a way that I never intentionally or unavoidably harm someone. So that said, I just want to apologize in advance if anything I say is insensitive, and with the caveat that I hope everyone understands it is coming from a place of love and respect.

If I was born a boy, my parents were planning on naming me Michael. I chose Mikey for short at age 13, but before then, I had a (girl) OC named Rowan, whose name could suit either gender.

i (37, bigender/f) have a wife (37mtf). now i guess she has always been my wife. even as a teen, she identified as trans before detransitioning. she wanted to join the girl scouts, too as a kid. i feel like as the wife of a trans woman, she has always been a woman. however, we are so used to her being a guy. i have heard many stories such as “it’s awkward for me because my dad is now my mom” or “i refuse to call my ‘dad’ by ‘his’ correct pronouns and ‘he’ is a trans woman”, stuff like that.

Perhaps it’s just the circles I run in (like Fedi, for example), but I noticed a significant percentage of trans folks are really into computers, even before they knew they were trans themselves.

That you would like to share, of course.

I had a dream last night that the sex characteristics of the genders were switched, so women had penises, facial hair, etc., and men had vaginas, boobs, etc., but in every other way (e.g. socially) everything else was the same. In this scenario do you think you would identify as the other gender?

I’m not asking to create drama but rather out of genuine curiosity. I will give big hugs to anyone who says their family is unsupportive. Mine is very much supportive and love me no matter what.

An acquaintance who I knew in highschool has since transitioned. Before publicly identifying as a woman she had a relatively neutral British accent with a some with a slight hint of Scottish. Since transitioning she has a full on lilting highland accent. Which i found odd. I have a similar accent to her original accent and decided to try doing a girl voice to see what it would sound like. And i too developed a strong Highland accent. Why? I was specifically trying not to.

It felt for a few years that things were looking up. No one really cared when I transitioned, people were largely supportive.

Want to know some of the weird and wrong things you believed back then. I used to believe a lot of dumb things, some of them were dumb in a funny way, others in a hurtful right wing way, but many of those things were wrong and pretty dumb looking back.

I really want to use all 3 threadverse platforms as they all have their own strengths!

I'm curious about people's experience on silicone breast forms. I've been using them for a long time now, and they work well for me, but I find that they are all a tad bit too firm for my liking, they lack a bit of that natural jiggle. What has your experience been, and can you recommend any brands that might have a bit more of a natural feel to them?

My insurance sucks. I've just been denied coverage for: - Therapy (I appealed that) - Dental work (out of network even though they "take my insurance") - Planned Parenthood gender affirming care meeting

I swear on my life I'm not trolling. And I don't know if that word is offensive. Last I checked it was the actual medical term, but I think I've seen people take offense, so I'm sorry if that's the case.

We have searched the internet and looked in a lot of places in it, however, we cannot find any non marketing or general information about them and since we would like to get bottom surgery, it would be very useful info to have.

I don't have a lot of time to play game these days. I usually play games like Cities Skylines where it's easy to pause and exit. I basically have 1-4 hours to game a week - depending on the week. But ever since coming out trans, I've wondered if there was a game that casually was affirming. I realize I could play an RPG where you can design your character, but most of those games have you spend 2 hours designing and then you never really look at the character again. Baldur's Gate was a lot of fun, but it's a little too deep to play casually on the side. I strongly prefer a non-NSFW game. I realize a lot of NSFW games exist on Steam that do explore trans concepts (I assume), but I'm looking for a more positive, gentle, affirmation.

I am asking this question based on a Reddit post that I saw. Why do black people (and non united-statesians) have less presence in the community? It feels super rare to see a person of colour getting mentioned, as I mostly see people of no colour. Is this some lack of vision that I have? Or is it really this way?

I believe there has to be a better way to refer to our community than an initialism list approach, which is structurally exclusive: that's why we've seen various groups rightfully seek increased recognition and try to change the most popular term - LGBT, LGBTQ, LGBTQIA+ and literally dozens of other variants. That indicates that an initialism is an exclusive, rather than inclusive, route which will always fail to represent everyone as our understanding of sex, sexuality and gender change over time, and it possibly encourages accidental erasure.

I'm a Software Engineer and I want to feel closer to the trans community. I live in a rural, remote, area and I don't have much of a chance of meeting fellow trans folks. I was wondering if there are publicly "trans" software. E.g., web applications that might help trans individuals, software that's just branded LGBTQ+, trans developers that need help in their repositories, etc. I don't have a ton of free time, but after my child goes to sleep (around 7pm-8pm) I find myself a bit idle. It might be nice to work on something passively a little here and there that supports the trans community in a small way.

Hi all,

I haven't been very active lately and I'm sorry, I don't have as much free time these days as I'd like to, so I need more moderators. If anyone can volunteer at all, even if it's just on the side it would really be appreciated.

First, forgive me for a mostly political post, and if political discussions aren't welcome I have to problems deleting this.

What word would be the equivalent for sir or ma’am for a person not in the gender norm. I like greeting strangers with it while working retail & have always wondered what would be the right why to respond to someone who did not want to be called either sir or ma’am.

Do you think it's purely hateful or do you think it has some merit in certain contexts?

If not then lets make one that starts with the same l!

I'm curious, how much of a danger is it in terms of health for someone to have lower than normal or no hormones at all.

How was the move? What things did you need to adjust to? Are the people more accepting in your new home? Is there anything you miss?

My doc just added it to me regumine, and I think a little after that I began smelling what I thought was a neighbor smoking. But its been mostly consisent no matter where I am ... Does anyone else experience something similar?

What I mean by that is that I see many posts by transfems about how they feel "eepy" and it feels to a point where they would hibernate if they could. Why so many memes about feeling sleepy are posted?

I used to think I'm a guy, I like many masculine things like motor sports, fixing cars, playing shooters. Things that typically boys like and I have no desire to wear girly clothes or anything like that. But I've always when I was younger liked hanging out with girls more than I liked hanging out with other dudes. Maybe that's not weird but I liked their company more, like how other boys would hang out with the guys, I liked doing that but with girls.

For those who don't know, it's a browser extension that marks a link to a group or person determined by how they act towards trans people.

Seriously why? It feels like they think it's really funny, to make us try and present feminine to get what we need to feel better. Like it's a fetish to see what they think is a man dressed as a woman asking for estrogen. My doctor and therapist called me he/him even though I told him she/her multiple times, I practically yelled at him for his repeated misgendering, he didn't care.

Some time ago, I was seeing a post online about "walking on eggshells" and how people were annoyed at this, and it made me think a little. I always try my best to be a respectful and decent person, but when the matter is trans people I do get a bit nervous (I'm an introvert, by the way. I'm already a bit nervous by default). How can I be sure that I'm not offending someone while also not looking so worried about it?

Hi, everyone! So, I'm moving toward going on estrogen in the next year. Before I do that, there are some steps I want to take to prepare. I'm using an at-home IPL machine now for hair removal, and I'd like to get some voice lessons under my belt as well. The main step I want to take next is sperm cryopreservation. My fiancee and I want kids, but I'm not certain it would be a good idea to have a kid during puberty. So, we want to freeze my sperm or our embryos, and I was wondering if ya'll have any resources you could share? I've looked into a few at-home sperm freezing kits, but it's such a big deal to place your fertility in the hands of a company like that and any advice would be much appreciated! <3

So I dealt with a nasty person a few days ago and one of the things this person did was calling people pick-mes while accusing them of being transphobic. The problem is I have no idea what this word or phrase means. I know it isn't good but I don't really understand how it relates to someone other than somehow being connected or associated with transphobia, and also likely being insulting.

I'm just wondering since some person on Mastodon said it, (almost certainly a troll due to their toxic behavior) and I was wondering what it actually means or if it's something that is just made up. I tried searching on Google and there weren't really any meaningful results, just people talking about and complaining about it.

To clarify what I mean, I as a Femboy have had people very aggressively try and say that I am a "trans girl in-denial" because of the fact that I dress like a girl.

Hello I am currently looking for people to moderate this community since I am still very new to Lemmy moderation and I have a feeling this community will be quite popular.